The Ghost of Dave Dobson

The last time I saw Dave Dobson was in the nursing home in Friday Harbor located on his beloved San Juan Island. Dave had retired to the San Juan Islands but I pulled him out of retirement to begin doing Fun Shops again. He was one of the most amazing and incongruent teachers I ever met. Amazing because of the keen insights he had on human nature and helping people evolve. And incongruent because of his fear that someone was going to rip him off and steal his life’s work. At times Dave would roar “Rip me off dammit. Just use my stuff.” And at other times, he would accuse people of stealing his teachings. And after a lifetime of teaching, he made sure no one else would be able to do his work. He left behind no writings other than a book I had transcribed for him as a birthday present. His Fun Shops recordings aren’t very useful to people who can’t see the non-verbals Dave was using. And the video recordings Dave hoarded will probably never see the light of day and even if they did – Dave forbade anyone from ever explaining his work. That’s why 20 years from now, no one will have heard of Dave Dobson – one of the greatest hypnotists who ever lived. On the other hand, there is a legacy of teachings of Milton Erickson. Maybe some of the people teaching Ericksonian hypnosis got it wrong. Maybe they are mis-teaching what Milton tried to give over. But Milton spent a life time making sure his techniques and content got out there....

Hypnotic Induction – Discover The Secret of Goldmining

How To Simply And Effectively Induce Hypnotic Trance I own every book on Ericksonian hypnosis except one. It’s deliberate. It’s called Hypnotic Realities by Erickson and Rossi. The book begins with a hypnotic induction that Erickson demonstrates. Rossi the faithful scribe is going to jot down the words and explain them. And 30 seconds into the induction, Rossi notes – at this point Erickson stopped his induction and started telling a story. It’s like Igor in the Young Frankenstein clip above. They misread the signs and make a critical mistake. How that made me upset. The man was literally sitting next to Milton Erickson and was completely clueless about what his teacher was doing. The story was part of the induction! Instead, generations of people who refer to that book will learn incorrectly. Learning how to induce trance is the single biggest mystery that faces new students of NLP and hypnosis. You have to learn the indicators of trance. What happens to the clients eyes? Their facial muscles? Their head position? Their breathing? How did you get their eyes to close? People sometimes spend 20 or 30 minutes just to get eye closure. What do you say to the person so you match their internal experience? Finally, how can you make a hypnotic experience so pleasant, people want to savor every minute. I’m about to reveal this right now. A number of years ago, I created a recording of a hypnotic induction of a young woman.  It was a combination of work I learned from Erickson and Dobson. I demonstrate a classic NLP version of the 5-4-3-2-1 induction. This...

What’s Wrong With NLP Training

Warning: This post is not for the faint at heart. NLP was founded by Richard Bandler and John Grinder.  The two of them co-taught in seminars across the United States (and the world).  At one point, they even did a show on the Las Vegas strip. As personalities, the two could hardly be more dissimilar.  Bandler was the PT Barnum showman.  He regaled the audience with stories during the trainings.  Grinder was the professor.  He taught techniques and was in love with the structure of change. Bandler developed a pattern he still uses today.  He tells wild stories to induce certain emotional states.  He chains these states together.  And he uses nested loops to conceal these chains from prying eyes. Grinder is still the professor.  He lectures the audience on the structure of change.  Currently, he is teaching the “New Code” of NLP. The lesser lights in the NLP world included Leslie Cameron (Bandler), Judy DeLozier, David Gordon, Robert Dilts, Stephen Lankton, Stephen Gilligan, Steve and Connirea Andreas, and many more.  They were very talented teachers who created high quality trainings. Somewhere along the line, a new model of training arose in the “Bandler camp”. In this model, people were no long “Instructed” in NLP.  The presenter got on the stage and “did NLP” without offering any instruction.  He would tell wild stories, elicit and install states, tell nested loops and in the end, the audience “got the material” on a deep level. The problem was, the attendees couldn’t do any of the things they learned.  That’s because they learned it on an “unconscious” level. I’m here to tell...

Embedded Commands – Right and Wrong

My teacher Dave Dobson used to mock embedded commands and the way they were used by calling them, “In Bedded Commands.” He once said, “the only time I use In Bedded Command is In Bed With A Woman, which is where they belong.” Nonetheless, they are a powerful technique – if you use them right. And if you use them wrong – well let’s just say people will see right through...